Six Ways to Last in Ministry
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Can women lead churches? It’s still a question for many Christians. Several things are on my mind in this regard. First, the Anglican General Synod voted to allow women bishops in the Church of England. Second, I watched on DVD the conclusion to the British comedy, The Vicar of Dibley, a wildly funny series about a woman priest in a small English village. Third, this month is the 20th anniversary of my call to be pastor of the First Baptist Church of Gardner, Massachusetts.
I grew up believing that women were not allowed to be pastors. I experienced my call to pastoral ministry and applied to seminary before I ever met a woman minister. I had to move across the country to find a church to serve as pastor. Ironically, that church had a gifted woman pastor, Rev. Ruth E. Thompson, for over 20 years. For many in the church, it was a relief to have a woman in the pulpit again! I spent thirteen years as their pastor, and I am grateful for the many blessings I received from them.
I’ve signed up for a CSA farm again this year. Every week through the season we get a supply of produce from a local farm. I’ve noticed how my energy for cooking has come back. Somehow the bag full of strawberries, rhubarb, lettuce, herbs, zucchini and even fava beans has inspired me. Last Saturday it was a record-breaking 100 degrees, and I still made a fabulous vegetable-and-herb frittata in the morning to serve later in the day. It never fails to amaze me how I can feel too exhausted for one task and completely energized for another. Or too much on the introverted side of my personality to talk with one person, and right out there on my extraverted edge with another. One thing I’m sure of: it’s important to engage in activities which give you energy regularly. Daily is not too often.
What are you doing to renew your energy?
By the way, if it’s hot at your house, take a look at this post from Israel Galindo’s blog.
I just finished a delightful novel, The Thirteenth Tale, by Diane Setterfield. It’s a first novel, which I often avoid, but I was grabbed from the first page.
As in the best of fiction, the experience of the characters rings true. One of the characters, Vida Winter, says this: “Our lives are so important to us that we tend to think the story of them begins with our birth. First there was nothing, then I was born….Yet that is not so. Human lives are not pieces of string that can be separated out from a knot of others and laid out straight. Families are webs. Impossible to touch on part of it without setting the rest vibrating. Impossible to understand one part without having a sense of the whole.” Worth remembering as we make summer trips to visit family.
Have you ever found a sermon got better overnight? The sermon you were sweating over Saturday night suddenly becomes preachable on Sunday morning. I used to draft my sermons on Thursday and come home and say to my husband, “I drafted my sermon, but it’s terrible.” I took Friday off, and predictably and mysteriously the sermon got better by Saturday.
Sermons aren’t the only thing that benefit from setting aside. E-mails that get your anxiety up (you know: you read them and your heart starts pounding) probably shouldn’t be answered until tomorrow. A staff conflict that comes to a head: usually, you can say, “I’ll have to think about this.” Most of the time when you face a ministry dilemma, you can take the time to reflect on it. And you’ll make a better decision if you do so.
Of course, usually some action must be taken. The e-mail must be answered, the staff situation addressed, and of course that sermon has to be preached on Sunday. That may take courage on your part. But a thoughtful response is often (always?) better than your first, reactive response.
The old cliche, “sleep on it,” isn’t such a bad idea, after all.
What are you in the mood to do today? Writing a sermon? Sitting in a meeting? Or heading out to enjoy some summer sunshine. Finally, after a gray spring and temperatures well below normal, we’ve got summer in Portland.
Ministry, of course, is not simply about doing what you’re in the mood for. It pays to show up on Sunday with a sermon, even if you haven’t been in the mood. Council meetings also happen, and we need to be there. Sometimes we are in the mood for sermon writing and even meetings, but on one level it doesn’t matter. We’ve got to show up. A certain discipline is necessary in any working life.
And yet, we all experience rhythms of energy. Some weeks, some seasons of the year, tend to be more energetic than others. Most of us experience a surge of energy in the fall, as the program year begins. Winter is often a time of less energy. Summer may find us with energy, but not for work!
Honoring our own energy and mood pattern will get us farther than trying to force ourselves to work, or to drum up energy that isn’t there. Persistent low energy and low mood may need attending to. But everyone has a cycle. And there’s a difference between exerting some will and forcing it.
What’s your mood today? What are you going to do?
Watching the final game of the NBA playoffs Tuesday night was a great illustration of how people’s functioning can go up and down. The LA Lakers, historically and currently one of the top basketball teams, lost to the Boston Celtics by a record-breaking 39 points for a title-clinching game. Why?
Whether you are a basketball fan or not, do you wonder why people do what they do? This week one of the leaders I coach said he realized how much time he spent trying to figure out people’s motivation. He said, “As if once we know, it would make any difference…” He’s learning instead to pay attention to behavior. For example, if you’ve got a difficult board member, it’s more productive to notice what he does and when than to spend energy thinking about why he does it. Motivation is a tricky matter: how often do I even understand myself and why I do what I do, anyway?
The question “why?” is not that useful when we are considering other people’s behavior. In many ways it is unanswerable. Even if there is an answer, we’re not likely to be able to find it. And if we spend a lot of time considering someone else’s motivation, we’ll have less time to think through our own purpose, goals and plan.
Here are some questions that may be more useful:
“Who is motivated?” Working with people who are motivated to change or to make a difference is always more productive than trying to motivate or second-guess those who are digging in their heels.
“Why now?” What is going on in the larger organization that might be causing the overall level of anxiety to go up enough to affect someone’s behavior? For example, uncertainty about a transition in top leadership may translate into problem behavior at lower levels.
“What do I think?” Thinking through your own principles and goals is always a good use of time. And being clear about your own bottom line in relation to a particular situation or individual’s behavior may help them function better. If you know what you will and won’t put up with, your own anxiety will go down, which helps everyone. For example, in the case of a volunteer who is chronically not showing up, if you get clear that you’d rather replace them than scramble at the
last minute, you can take a stand.
When someone’s behavior becomes a problem, it’s easy to spend a lot of time, both at work and outside, thinking about them. Another question might be, “Are you thinking more about them than they are about you or their work?” If the answer is yes, turn your attention back to your own goals, which will help you get clarity about how to deal with them.
Remaining curious about others, and noticing how they function, can be helpful. This is not the same as asking “Why do they do that?” in frustration. Spending emotional energy on frustration (for more than the inevitable half-hour or so) will keep you from a thoughtful response to the behavior. Taking the time to think through the questions above, and how to respond, will help you move toward your goals.
When I was first called to the church I served for thirteen years, I read an article in Leadership which suggested that you didn’t have to be like your people, but you had to like them. As a recent transplant from the West Coast to a small community in New England, I appreciated those words. I was different from the people I served in lots of ways, right down to the accent. But I did like them. I liked everyone on the search committee when I met them, and still liked them when I left.
“Liking” isn’t enough to build a ministry with, of course. Perhaps another way to think about it is “respect.” William Willimon has a solid article in the current Christian Century (June 17) titled “First Call: From Seminary to Parish.” It’s not online, but track down a copy if you’re not a subscriber. One quote: “The difference between the thought of the laity in your first parish and that of your friends back in seminary is not so much the difference between ignorance and intelligence as it is a difference in ways of thinking. Learn to appreciate the thought and speech of people who are outside of the restrictions imposed by the academy.” Good food for thought for experienced pastors as well as recent seminary grads.
I’ve had several occasions recently to mention an article on preaching by Walter Brueggemann, “The Preacher, the Text, and the People.” In it, he refers to Bowen Theory’s idea of triangles to talk about preaching. He suggests that preachers often line themselves up with the text over and against the people. In fact, what we need to do is stand with the people and allow the text to speak to both of us. Brueggemann’s argument is, of course, far more nuanced than my brief summary. I commend the full article to you.