Tag Archives: Bowen Family Systems Theory

Ten ways for church leaders to lead like Winston Churchill

Are you facing some difficulties at church lately? Whether your challenges are internal or external, you can learn something from Winston Churchill. He was Prime Minister of Britain through World War II, and led his country through terrifying bombing and …

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Courage: two quotes

Here are a couple of quotes on courage I’ve been thinking about this week. They come from The Thing You Think You Cannot Do: Thirty Truths about Fear and Courage, by Gordon Livingston, M.D. “We are more often frightened than …

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Ten ways to help your ministry by connecting with family this summer

Ministry leadership depends on relationships, as I said in my last post. We all learn about relationships from the family we grow up in. You may have learned in your family: conflict is inevitable, or to be avoided at all …

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Nine ways to work on connecting with church members in the summertime

Leadership depends on relationships. Summer may be a bit less busy for ministry tasks and meetings. Why not take that time not only to plan for the fall but also to build relationships? Here are ten things to try: Show …

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Six ways to practice listening at church

In my last post, I wrote about six ways to practice defining yourself at church. But listening is equally important. Here are six ways to practice: In any conversation, listen as much as you talk. Don’t argue. Listen. Don’t defend …

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Six ways to practice defining yourself at church

Here’s what I think: I want… I’d like to… I’ll be leaving the meeting at 9:00. I don’t answer my cell on Monday. I’d love it if we could… What do you do when you need to say what you …

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A visual reminder of the power of balance in a system

Allyn Harris Dault, a former student of mine at Central Seminary, posted this video on Facebook (with an ironic thanks to me for helping him learn about the challenge of changing self in a system). I’ve watched it about 5 …

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Birth Order and Your Church Board

At the recent Oregon session of the Leadership in Ministry workshop, my colleague, Bob Dibble, workshop coordinator, made a fascinating suggestion: think about the birth order of everyone on your board. I asked him this week to say a little …

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Worry about yourself

This 47-second video is a great one for pastors. Funny and apt. (Thanks to my colleague, Bob Dibble.)

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What I learned from my father about ministry

I wrote an article after my mother died about what I’d learned from her that had benefited me in my ministry. My father turned 90 on Sunday, and I decided I’d like to think about this before he dies (though …

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