Tag Archives: Church Communication

Six ways to practice listening at church

In my last post, I wrote about six ways to practice defining yourself at church. But listening is equally important. Here are six ways to practice: In any conversation, listen as much as you talk. Don’t argue. Listen. Don’t defend …

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Is Pastoral Ministry Like Taking a Test?

This week following the Leadership in Ministry workshop, I visited my friend and colleague, Meg Hess.  Her daughter, Keziah, has on the refrigerator a list of “Test Taking Tips” left over from elementary school.  I love tips, and I thought …

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Are You Avoiding Someone at Church?

In ministry, we all have people we love to spend time with. They are the people who constantly support us, who are positive and easy to be around, or who we simply have good chemistry with. And then there are …

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Do You Make These 7 Mistakes When You Communicate with Your Church Members?

Here are seven mistakes it’s easy to make when we attempt to communicate with our churches, both individuals and as a group. 1. In individual conversations, do you talk more than you listen? Talking too much is a sign of …

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John Engels on “The Single Cause Fallacy”

I came across this fascinating post by John Engles on The “Single Cause” Fallacy. Engels suggests leaders dig deeper, and not settle for simple cause-and-effect answers. Church leaders can be easily satisfied by these answers (partly because it keeps us …

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Can you be lighter in relationships?

Today I gave a talk to a group of volunteers who support senior adults by facilitating small groups. I spoke about overfunctioning/underfunctioning and triangles, and the group seemed to resonate, both in their volunteer work and their personal lives. It …

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Keith Harder on When to Be Silent and When to Speak Up

Keith Harder had many thoughtful remarks to make in this week’s teleconference on when to be silent and when to speak up. He talked about monitoring our anxiety during conversations. He described it as noticing our own “temperature.” He said, …

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How Do Church Leaders Help People Deal with Challenges?

How do church leaders help people deal with challenges? Horticulturalists found that trees planted in more-receptive peat and then staked to prevent wind stress tend to grow their roots within the peat rather than extend them into the ground. In …

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Do You Have a Hard Time Saying No?

Have you ever said “yes” to a request, and then gone back to your office kicking yourself because you didn’t say “no?” Leadership involves a series of yeses and nos, and it’s important for leaders to be thoughtful about both. …

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Don’t Argue – Ever!

Note: the post below is a guest post, an excerpt from the book by Tom Harper I mentioned a few days ago, Leading from the Lion’s Den. I particularly liked this chapter on Proverbs, which addresses the emotional self-regulation essential …

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