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Five reasons to celebrate church conflict

Do you hate conflict at church? I’ll be honest with you. I’m as conflict averse as the next church leader. My mother hated conflict, and so do I. My heart starts to pound and my palms sweat. In my heart …

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5 Church Leadership Mistakes You Might Be Making

How do you know when to take a stand and when to let things go? Here are five common mistakes, and some questions to think about. Avoiding telling people what you think because they might not like it. Of course, …

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Nine Indicators of a Healthy Congregation

What is congregational health? It has little if anything to do with the size of the congregation. Churches of any size can be vibrant communities. Long ago, I worshiped several times in a tiny Methodist church in the foothills of …

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Ron Richardson on Polarization and the Healthier Church

In this week’s teleconference conversation about polarization Ron Richardson suggested some ways to think differently about polarized relationships. In polarized situations he has tried to think to himself: something is going on with these people that is important, and to …

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Polarization and the Healthier Church: A Leadership Adventure Teleconference

Please join me this Thursday, January 24, at 9 Pacific/10 Mountain/11 Central/noon Eastern Time, for a one hour conference call conversation on polarization and the healthier church. My guest will be Ronald W. Richardson, author of Creating a Healthier Church …

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Is Your Church Polarized?

Churches, large and small, can find themselves facing a divide over issues, large and small. The issue at hand can range from controversy over a new building to the denomination’s stance on homosexuality to the current pastoral leader to what …

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Veterans Day (Observed) for Church Leaders

With all due respect to military veterans, I wonder if we need a “veterans of church warfare” day. We could start issuing medals for those who have survived a church split, firing a pastor/being fired as a pastor or becoming …

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Is It Time to Be Silent or Time to Speak?

“…a time to keep silence and a time to speak.” Ecclesiastes 3: 7 How do church leaders know the difference? When is it time to shut up and when is it time to speak up? Sometimes anxiety leads us to …

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Do other people irritate you?

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” My husband called my attention to this quote from Carl Jung. (Hope he wasn’t trying to make a point…) I do find that relationships go better …

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10 Tips for Dealing with Change at Church

1. Clarify your own thoughts on the issue at hand, whether the change is about worship, structure, leadership, music. Spend some time alone to think about it. 2. Think through when and where to appropriately share your thoughts. Stay as …

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