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Keeping the memory fresh and the record accurate

After my last post about Winston Churchill, I got an e-mail from David Freeman, Ph.D., editor of the Chartwell Bulletin from the Churchill Centre, saying, “Winston Churchill’s father did not die from syphilis. That is an ancient and long-since refuted …

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Ten ways to help your ministry by connecting with family this summer

Ministry leadership depends on relationships, as I said in my last post. We all learn about relationships from the family we grow up in. You may have learned in your family: conflict is inevitable, or to be avoided at all …

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What I learned from my father about ministry

I wrote an article after my mother died about what I’d learned from her that had benefited me in my ministry. My father turned 90 on Sunday, and I decided I’d like to think about this before he dies (though …

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Will You See Family for Christmas? Four More Things to Try

I shared three ideas for relating to family at Thanksgiving. Here are four more ideas for Christmas extended-family gatherings. 1. Learn something new about your family members and how they relate to each other and to you. Don’t assume you …

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Will You See Family for Thanksgiving? Three Things to Try

Are you seeing family members this week? Here are three things to try: 1. Appreciate your family members. Make a list (mental or on paper) of things you like about them, especially the ones you find most challenging. 2. Do …

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Can you be lighter in relationships?

Today I gave a talk to a group of volunteers who support senior adults by facilitating small groups. I spoke about overfunctioning/underfunctioning and triangles, and the group seemed to resonate, both in their volunteer work and their personal lives. It …

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“Money and Your Ministry” in Columbus in May

I’m speaking at the Healthy Congregations Leadership Seminar on May 27 in Columbus, Ohio. The morning will be Money and Your Ministry, and how church leaders can handle money matters with lowered anxiety and more clarity, with an additional afternoon …

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What Helps Ministry Relationships Last?

Ministry is about relationships – no relationships, no ministry. This month my husband, Karl, and I celebrate our 32th wedding anniversary (yikes!). As I reflect on the many things I have learned from our marriage, I see elements that have …

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How Well Do You Listen?

How well do you listen? I’ve come to realize that I practice selective listening. When I was a pastor, I was pretty good at listening when I visited people in the hospital or had a conversation about a pastoral need. …

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How to Reframe Your Resources

What are your resources? The end of the year and the beginning of the new year are a time when many institutions and families look at what they have financially (or don’t have). We are programmed by our culture, and …

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