Category Archives: Personal Growth

What I wish I’d known about ministry 30 years ago

Dear pastors: I’m writing to you from my heart. I was a pastor for 15 years, and I’ve been helping pastors with their ministries for another 15. Yes, that means I’ve had 30 years seeing churches from multiple sides: as …

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Pastors: What do you talk about at the dinner table?

In the busyness of life, you do have dinner with your family, right? So, what do you talk about at the dinner table? I recently read an article about Robert Caro, author of multiple biographies of President Lyndon Johnson. His …

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When Are You Taking Time Off–Completely?

Today I want to ask you an important question: When was the last time you were completely out of touch? It’s becoming rarer in our culture. A friend spent time in a cabin in the woods where she’s been going …

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The minimalist guide to clergy burnout

Are you exhausted? Do you feel the weight of your church? Edwin Friedman used to say, “Stress comes less from overwork than from taking responsibilities for the problems of others.” It’s the most common source of clergy burnout. It’s that …

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Book suggestions for Christmas giving

If you haven’t finished your Christmas shopping, here are a few book recommendations. Books are my favorite gifts to give. For your favorite cook, clergy spouse or pastor’s kid (the young adult variety) Three Many Cooks: One Mom, Two Daughters, …

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Pastors, are you paying attention in your ministry?

Are you paying attention in your ministry: to what you are doing, not what you need to do next? To the person you are talking to, not who you need to see next? Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat say, “All …

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The secret of New Year’s celebration for church leaders

Here’s a simple secret to celebrating the end of 2014 and 2015: just do it. You don’t have to throw a party or even attend one to celebrate tonight and tomorrow. Simply follow this easy process: For introverts: sit down …

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Is social media outrage sapping your energy?

  My 28-year-old daughter recently got back on Facebook for the first time since college. She’s enjoying the renewed connections, but she also said, “I’m outraged a lot more.” Her comment started me thinking. You know how it is: you …

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Can’t keep up? Nine ways to simplify your ministry

Fall is well underway. Are you feeling overwhelmed? Ministry is hard work, but there are ways to make it easier. Here are nine ideas to make your ministry (a little) simpler. Say no at least once a week. (Just because …

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You may have a higher net worth than Donald Trump

Do you know what your net worth is? No, not that net worth, your personal net worth. Not the dollars you have, but the qualities and results you have developed, and the liabilities you have personally. Here’s how it works: …

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